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Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.

You’re grieving the the breakup and even missing them; they’re already on a new ‘adventure’ with someone else. You also feel bloody well duped if you were having discussions with them during their overlapping.

The overlapper may justify their actions by claiming that the relationship was “practically over” or claiming that they told you they needed space.

It’s like it can’t be because they don’t feel the same way anymore or about incompatibility; the other party practically has to be a serial killer before they’ll leave.

Or it’s the ‘ole “Well they’re not beating/cheating..” When they can’t ‘villainise’ the person and in fact, this person is even trying to people please the hell out of them or fighting hard for the relationship, overlapping becomes their go-to exit strategy because they can either claim guilt and finally have a ‘legitimate’ reason to exit or the other person will be putting the pressure on for them to move on. Let’s be real, some people don’t do ‘being alone’ very well.

I actually know a few people who’ve never had a clean break between relationships.

A week later I was at our old flat collecting stuff and listened to the voicemails most of which were for me except one from 5am the week before.

Overlappers don’t do facing feelings, thoughts, or even their conscience.

It hurts like hell as it jumps right into your grief and forces you out of denial and even short-circuits bargaining because it removes hope.